down to earth

I really do believe that a child, if he/she reacts negatively to someone or a situation, like in a disrespectful way or a rebellious way there’s always a reason… it doesn’t mean we have to be so forceful and command threats or raising our voice, I do believe they’re reacting out of miscommunication or a protest to a change in their routine. It’s our duty to show them trust. They respond only to love and trust, conditioning otherwise in an indirectly negligent way only raises a negligent child,

and to elaborate a bit on love and trust – its so cliche to just say to love a child but it goes beyond the scope of what we see as love, love is hard it pushes you to reevaluate yourself and others and puts you into self denying situations and makes you grow, if you foster that in a child and become the example of acts of kindness then it will at the very least have residual effects on the subliminal memory of the child and eventually effect the maturation of the child.

one of the best examples of acts of love are listening – because if you listen at the level of attentivenesss necessary you solve problems big and small and you wipe slates clean – for yourself and for others, it gives the ability to communicate – and can you imagine how much trust and understanding that can impart on your child if you listened to them and helped them solve a problem.

and in the long run this good feeling you impart on them will want them to replicate these good feelings… which leads to mimicry at the very least, so they would copy that attitude and by extension learn to listen, be attentive and give acts of kindness to others over time…

I think that if we were to be hostile and make them cry and not do a simple thing such as: listening to why they’re upset and detangle the web of possible miscommunication for them it could lead to resentment on their part and worse of all – a green light for them to later impart a dictator/ megalomaniac/ my way or the high way attitude onto others they come across in their adult life and worse , imparting this same attitude toward their own children later on.

I do believe that children are from God and not from us .. meaning we shouldn’t feel that we are overlords over them for life. I think it’s such a dangerous mindset – it leads to the idea of: well I created you, therefore I can take your life away – so it only makes sense the other way around and if I believe that children are God’s that means we have to respect them as through they weren’t ours by some degree, that they are made in the divine image … so this at least gives us some reason to listen to them.. that way also, they would be much better enabled to becoming the independent individuals they’re meant to be…

If you were suppressed your whole life and told what to do for the sake of someone else’s convenience, you wouldn’t grow or trust that person, maybe for some time you’d do it out of obedience or pity but it would nevertheless become stale and not meaningful and you would cease growing,

You would want to listen to someone you can grow with, someone that stimulates growth and goodness and inspires as opposed to represses.

When speaking to your child you have to be at their level otherwise you can’t build trust

thereby, with all of this, particularly with this attitude in mind, I think raising children would be much easier, smoother, more beautifully connected and meaningful.

~feb 21, one a day blog quest~